Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

A Berkshire Tale by Claremary P. Sweene

During the past few weeks since my book was published, I’ve been visiting classrooms and reading sections of A Berkshire Tale to students. Let me share some of the things ‘I’ve learned so far:

Don’t be afraid to ask elementary school students how old you are. It can be an uplifting experience because they tend to guess very, very low.

Do not gloat aloud about this. I related to some friends that a first grader had pegged  me to be thirty-nine and one friend (a retired kindergarten teacher) explained that anyone over twenty-five years of age is ancient to a six-year old. I’m a virtual Methuselah.

It’s OK to ask third graders to name their favorite pets. They’ll do just that and you can get on with reading the story.

ZuZu & Grampa

It’s not prudent to ask  first graders  the same question, as  they will consider it a personal invitation to share with you everything about every pet they ever had and then go on to tell you about their relative’s pets and their neighbor”s pets; and pets that are no longer among the living. At this point things can go downhill very fast, so, avoid this stumbling block unless you have a degree in early childhood psychology with a particular emphasis on loss and grief.

Should one of the children happen to have an ant farm and should you attempt to tactfully move the conversation of the names of pet ants on to the business of reading your book, this subtle prompt will be duly ignored and you may have to reschedule another day to return to the class and actually read your story.

It would be best not to preface reading to first graders with any personal queries., if you have only twenty or thirty minutes to read your selection.

Large, 3-dimensional unicorn kites can also prove very distracting and limit the amount of time available for reading.

Flying Horse

NEVER ask for a volunteer to hold a 3-dimensional, unicorn  kite. If you want to avoid chaos, DO NOT open that door!

If you are reading a story about alpacas to forty or more fifth graders in a crowded room, do not distribute samples of alpaca fleece. It could prove overwhelmingly tempting for an .eleven-year old boy to casually drop it down the back of the girl sitting next to him when your attention is elsewhere. It would be better to hold off on dispensing samples of anything furry, fuzzy or slimy until you have finished the story, are handing the class back over to the teacher and heading out to the parking lot.IMG_1937


As the school year comes to a close, I have only a few more classrooms to visit. They happen to be in my home town which is quite small. Needless to say, I am going to take the lessons I’ve learned so far, apply them and hopefully not make any new blunders. These people know where I live.


11 thoughts on “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

  1. My poor husband is trying to watch a serious T.V. show while I’m giggling uncontrollably reading your post! Obviously, I’m enjoying myself tremendously, and you’re to thank for that!

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    1. It is now summer and I’m on break from reading in classrooms, but I will remember those hard-learned lessons when September rolls around. Many a day, I’d walk out to the school parking lot talking to myself and it was always the same question:”What were you thinking, Claremary?”I am happy this made you laugh and thanks for the comment, too. Apologies to your hubby. Clare

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      1. I’m happy to hear I’m not the only one who talks to herself lol! Best wishes on publishing your Book Clare! That’s AMAZING!

        Oh, my hubby says no problem, and thank you. He likes hearing me laugh!
        Dori 🙂

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      2. Ahahaha!!! Dear Charlie!
        I’m glad he has you to keep his heart light and joyful.
        LOTS of great bloggers out there, for sure. Thank goodness!


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